Husband Plays On His Computer To Much, What Should I Do?

I am at a loss...My Husband is always on his computer playing games. From the moment he gets home from work till he goes to bed (which is really late). He never wants to do anything with me or his daughter who is 10 months. I feel like I have to beg him to play with her (dd) or help take care of her. He claims since I am a stay a home mom, my life is good and shouldn't have any complaints about doing all the house work and taking care of our daughter. I'm just at a loss. I have tried to talk to him about the issue but he turns it into my problem and not ours. I just need some feedback. Thanks!

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Don't start a war by cutting the cords or hiding them or whatever.

Do check for porn as other answerers suggested.

Then sit him down and say that you need to compromise. He can play his games for an amount of time that the two of you agree on, and then he has to stop. Use a timer. He must agree on a time limit each evening of playing his games, or you are with someone who isn't willing to compromise, and then you have to seek marriage counseling.

Don't try to cut him off from his games entirely, he enjoys them, and if they are only games and not porn, then they are harmless I believe.

Also work on plans, and goals. It sounds as if there isn't enough shared plans between the two of you, and you need plans not only for each week (part work that needs done at home, part play) but also plans for things you want for the rest of your life.

You have to dream together.

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cut the cords on the computer!! i would !
if that is the case.. try to play what he is playing too.. ok? so that you two will share the same interest.. so that if he will teach you how to play it.. then he will be the one sitting the baby up.. nyay

but.. we really dont know.. with that, maybe you guys need to talk about it,., of course he will say its your problem.. try to disconnect the internet connection for a week and check if what hes gonna do........
Steal the power cord. Not rocket science. Good luck. You probably can't FIND the power cord to Steal it....you dont seem to bright.
I know alot of people who are addicted to the computer whether its playing games chatting or porn and it sounds like he is addicted. It is like a drug its probably all he thinks about even when at work he probably cant wait to get home to get on it. He probably gets some sort of high from it it should be treated as an addiction try looking up something that could help him with his addiction
This is a two fold problem. First has to deal with the gaming addiction your husband has and the second has to do with his attitude.

Look here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Game_addict...
computers are addictive. Try praying for him and yourself.
Don't cut the cords, that'll make the situation much worse. For once, try to see what he is playing, and share the same interest with him for a while. Try talking to him sincerely, don't overdo things.
Seems as if he has an addictive nature. My husband loves fishing to the point where he would skip work just to go and all our money was gouing towards his hobby. I eventually decided that if I couldn't beat him I would join him, about a year of fishing with him I beat him in a fishing competitiion it wore his patience so much that I was getting better than him he all of a sudden didn't want to go as much, and have decided that gardening would be a better hobby for us to do together.

So babe, all I can say is never let him do something alone, prove to him that you can outplay and outlast him anyday. His priority should be in keeping his family happy.

Good Luck.
I know this may sound extreme, but go to a counseler. Maybe it's a fairly new issue, but it sounds like something that could escalate, and cause relationship problems for both the marriage and father to daughter bond down the road. Sometimes hearing advice from a third party will be taken more seriously than from a partner. You should be able to communicate clearly with each other, and be responsive, which, as you mentioned, is a problem right now. Seek some extra help, tell him you'll buy him something pretty if he goes for a couple sessions with you...

Best of luck!
He is probably addicted to porn. The games are just a cover. Sorry you have to go through this with a young baby, but if he is addicted, then he will be irritable if he can't get to the computer at least aroound bedtime and he probably doesn't want to have sex with you anymore. Counseling is usually useless for these people. I don't know what to tell you. Investigate whether he has addictive behaviors with regard to the computer. Check his last viewed webpages (because men are too silly to empty their brower caches each time they go online) by opening Internet Explorer or Netscape or whetever he has and pressing "control (CTRL)" and H for "history". If the porn thing is correct (and I do not mean casual porn watching, I mean addition), maybe talk to him about whether you two should have an open marriage until your baby is a bit older. (He'll either shape up or ship out...to find a girlfriend..at this suggestion. Good part is that you can get some attention from someone else too.) Not sure if that is an option for you. If not, try counseling (you can do that too with the porn addiction, but it really doesn't work...they have messed up their brains like a crack addict)
Hah. I answered something like this earlier because it's sooooo familair! lol. Just do a little lap dance oe strip dance for him... or just walk around naked or wear something sexy and make sure he notices. I'm sure it'll work!
Really?I give you 1 month or less ,and this crap wont last ,you will find someone that will pay attention to you and your daughter,I'm seeing trouble coming .

4 yrs ago my husband did the same crap ,not so much the computer ,but work .

i was raising my 3 children alone ,PTA meeting's ,baseball game's ,anything that involved the children ,until another man shown interest on me ,then he woke up real fast .

they don't miss it ,until it's gone .
Get him to braid your hair, paint your toes, and massage your aching back. Perhaps you could even let the massage become inappropriate. Setup a board game and call him out in to the living room to play that (hard to say no if you've already set it up). Some guys like to fix stuff, so maybe there's something you can point out there. That won't all happen at once. He'll even be annoyed at first and make it obvious.

Start small; it'll be slow process. The idea is to at first get him to realize the games will still be there later, then that he won't necessarily miss them. Of course, ending with him realizing the games weren't really as much fun as he thought they were.

For the people who said to cut the cords or take the power, I bet that'll just start a fight and get him more set in his determination to play on the computer.